Saying I love you to friends
End calls with close friends the way family would, and mean it
Telling friends outright that you love them, and calling them brother or sister, rather than leaving the affection for them to work out. Sinek picked it up from military friends who signed off phone calls that way, and what he reports is that friends of his who are ordinarily undemonstrative began saying it back once he started. One rule comes with it. Do not use the words unless they are true. It costs nothing. The first few times are awkward, which is most of why people never start.
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He picked this up from military friends who ended phone calls with I love you, brother, and he says he now does the same, calling his friends brother or sister. Friends of his who are emotionally distant started saying it back. His one condition is not to use the words lightly.
Source: The Optimism Company: One Really Simple Way You Can Be a Better Friend“Now, I say “I love you” to my friends and call them brother or sister … When I started saying “I love you” to them on the phone, they started saying it back.”
The Optimism Company: One Really Simple Way You Can Be a Better Friend (opens in a new tab) · 8 Jul 2024
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