Let them, let me
Two words to stop managing other people, then two more to decide what you do
Someone else's choices, moods or opinions start to eat at you. Say let them, and drop the effort of managing what is not yours to manage. Then say let me, and turn to the one thing you can decide, which is your own next move. People use the pair for family friction, colleagues, traffic, and the general wish that other people would behave differently. Mel Robbins built a book around the idea after a version of it spread widely online.
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- Mel RobbinsDoes it
Author and podcaster · The Let Them Theory
Says she says let them every day in her marriage and every day with her daughter Sawyer, and that using it through the year they spent co-writing the book closed a distance between them that neither knew how to fix. The second step, let me, she credits entirely to Sawyer.
Source: The Mel Robbins Podcast: Transform Relationships with Let Them Theory
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