Asking for help
Four words, can you help me, used on purpose rather than as a last resort
Making the request of a colleague or a friend before things get bad. The common belief has it backwards, in Sinek's telling. People trust you more after you ask them for something. Not less. A friend who hides a struggle has taken away your chance to show up. Starting small helps, on questions where nothing is at stake, so that the serious request later is not the first one you have ever made. Fear of being a burden is what stops most people.
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Can you help me out is the question he suggests, on the argument that people trust you more once you ask, not less. He tells the story of a friend who went quiet for weeks and then admitted he had been struggling. His own reaction: hiding it had denied him the chance to be there.
Source: CNBC Make It: Simon Sinek on how asking for help can get people to trust you
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